Pastor Todd Painter
Proverbs 5:18 “ Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”
As I am writing this article, I want to be a blessing to young preachers, by giving them some advice for when they are older. I was reading this verse the other day in my devotional time and a tremendous thought came to my mind. I have read this Scripture hundreds of times over the many years. Of course the normal thought process when reading this verse is the simple teaching of the verse, which is basically to make her happy by keeping to her and from all others.
However, I think God wants us to see something a little deeper than this. We are currently living in a day and age where men of God are dropping like flies at the ointment of the apothecary jar. They frequently are dropping into sin with the opposite gender. Churches are being hurt and even ruined completely in some cases. Now, we can already figure why Satan attacks strong men, obviously, to hurt the cause of Christ. As a leader and pastor we must guard ourselves from this attack. We must “… rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”
The Bible tells us in 1 John 2:16 “For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.” Even preachers have to overcome these three sins mentioned here. The first two mentioned are not limited to, but definitely can involve sins sexual in nature. The last thing anybody wants to see is the cause of Christ hindered. However, if a man of God falls into these sexual sins that is exactly what will happen. We need to be careful about becoming too worldly and dropping our guard. We need to separate ourselves from these types of sins.
I think this is why Solomon wrote to “rejoice with the wife of thy youth.” He realized that Satan would try to lure middle aged men with younger women. Most of your more stable and productive men of God are middle aged. For the most part these are the ones that are falling into sexual sins with the opposite gender. We must guard ourselves against this attack and be sure to keep to our own wife. In fact, he warns us in the previous verse to “Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.”
One might think, how can we guard ourselves? How can we keep from falling into this sin? I think the best way is to follow the advice of the wise man found in verse 19, “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” Learn to be satisfied with the one God has chosen for you. Let me give you a few pointers on how to rejoice with the wife of thy youth for a long time to come:
1) Love her with all your heart. My wife and I have been married for almost 24 years and I am more in love with her than I have ever been. I decided a long time ago that I would always love my wife. Every husband ought to make that commitment.
2) Determine to keep your commitment to her. I am a very duty driven person. In fact so much, that many would consider me to be a fanatic. I believe in fulfilling my commitments and duty. Every husband should feel that way about everything they do in life and that will translate into your marriage vows as well.
3) Compliment her. I have not always succeeded at this in 24 years of marriage, but overall I believe my wife would agree that I usually make a good effort to compliment her. I compliment her on her looks, and abilities. I think both are important. She needs to feel like you are attracted to her and she needs to feel like she has value to you.
4) Romance her. She needs the walk in the park. She needs the intimate conversations. She needs the flowers and nice note cards. Truth is, Man of God, so do you. If you do these things, she will respond to you. If you are busy dating your wife, you won’t have time to think about some other woman, because you will be too busy.
5) Stay physically involved with her. I don’t believe this needs a lot of detailed explanation. I will only say that every husband and wife ought to spend a lot of regular time hugging, kissing…etc.
6) Spend time with her. God created me for the work of the ministry and my wife to be my help meet. Her number one role is to be a keeper of the home. However, my wife and I do just about 80% of everything together. I do understand the principle that Dr. Hyles used to teach, of spending sometime apart so that you have something to talk about when you come back together again. I totally agree that it is important. However, I enjoy spending a lot of time with my wife. We exercise together, we go golfing together, we go target shooting together (she is a good shot), we build things together, and etc. She certainly has her interest and I have mine. However, we have found a lot of mutual interest that we can do together. Not every married person can spend as much time together as perhaps my wife and I do, but I will say the more time you spend together the less opportunity there is for some other person to come between you and your wife thus destroying your marriage.
7) Guard your actions. Remember there is somebody more important than anybody else that is watching you. Look at what verse 21 says, “For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.” Interestingly enough this verse follows the statement of “… why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?” Remember God is watching you. If you keep that in mind it will be hard to get involved in a loose conversation with someone of the opposite gender. Best thing is to be satisfied and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
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